Welcome!
I too love that candle holder. And I'm happy to meet another biker babe! I have an old '82 Yamaha xs400, but mostly it just sits there because it needs some lights. It's not legal to drive on a public road!
So I also definitely understand the out of sight saving mentality. For my part, I just tell myself there is less money in the bank than there really is! Also, the bank automatically transfers a dollar to savings for every transaction on my debit card. That is very helpful indeed.
If the shoe fits, ask a man if you should wear it. He will then consult another woman. When he tells you yes, wear the shoes to insult the lady who makes you look good.