Let's talk about sex...

I think that sex has become too commercial.
Unfortunately the teenagers take the porn movies for instructions manual and imagine that physical love is that.

Daruma wrote:

I think that sex has become too commercial.
Unfortunately the teenagers take the porn movies for instructions manual and imagine that physical love is that.

That's another thing I hate about modern society when it comes to sex. Too scared to educate the children themselfs, leading to a lot of things not very pleasant either physical nor emotional.
The 'fun' thing is that the big ones here in Sweden discussed wheter or not they should close out all sexual education in school - just because it didn't go well with some religions. Only thing I got to say is WTF?! I've heard to many stories, true and almost true, to see that it would end up no way near good...

CorpseQueen, they have already done something like that in parts of America. Under George Bush, he wanted to teach \"abstinence only\" to hormone-addled teenagers. I think during a lot of that time the birth rate went up dramatically for teenagers, as did the rate of STD's like gonorrhea and syphilus. The government removed a lot of their web pages about sexual health and disease prevention because it didn't get on with their religious views. That's just appalling! To withhold vital information from people, information that saves lives, because your idea of God doesn't like you to talk about it is unforgivable. Luckily some of that has been changing for the positive here in the last year.

There are two sayings that spring to mind at the moment . . .

The first is \"sex sells.\" We are bombarded in everyday life by images and literature full of sex. It tells us how we should look, how we should feel, what we are supposed todo, what we are supposed to want. Is it any wonder that many people find the entire concept of sex confusing and get in way over their heads? There is always freedom of choice in this matter, but you don't want to have regrets.

The second one is \"if harms none do as you will.\" I have a very open concept about sex. It's definitely not something I'm shy to talk about and I don't think that it's something to be afraid to experience. But will anyone be hurt in the process including yourself?

I too agree that the media is way too careless when flashing graphic images and videos without the slightest concern of who might see them. There's a lot of hypocrisy going on around here (especially in the part of the world I live in)...if you turn on the tv most \"stars\" appear more than casually dressed, making trivial conversation on the subject. Sex is the primary marketing ploy for almost everything nowadays and that's just sad. It's sad to see sex everywhere on tv, or hear about it on the radio whilst in schools it is still a rather taboo subject. I've never understood this thing, everybody has sex, it is a need of the body as well as a way to obtain pleasure, express love(in some cases) , and yes, I agree it is also an art, but teens here are not educated properly. Most parents dread about having to tell their kids about sex when they reach a certain age. For example, in my family nobody ever told me anything about sex, I had to find out all for myself, and I did thanks to the tv and the Internet and to my very personal friend, le Marquis de Sade ) But my case is a happy one, most girls here discover that they should have used a ruddy condom when they're already pregnant. Sex is depicted as a wonderful and pleasurable activity, but rarely issues such as contraceptives and way of preventing diseases are brought up.
Personally, I was a bit surprised by Rammstein's new vid, but surprised in a pleasant way. It may be a trifle over the top, but it does break some taboos. It shows that sex is both enjoyable and natural, whatever your preferences, not something to be condemned or not talked about.
For me, as for any other person, sex is something necessary, but not something to be done because I feel the need or I have to. It does require a certain atmosphere, although I don't strictly mean candles, arousing incenses and so on, that depends on each person's individual taste, but nevertheless, such things make the experience more enjoyable

I have to admit, I never thought we'd be discussing this on the Alchemy forum! Bet it gets loads of hits though
I personally think that sex is something that you should have complete control over yourself with; that is, you pick who you share it with and what it means to you. If you want to have fun with lots of people, do it, if you'd rather keep it between yourself and one other person, it's all good. And everything is normal; if you like something a bit \"alternative\" then it's fine, it's just how you are. As long as you and the person you're sharing it with are comfortable with everything.