Compliments.

Envy wrote:

Hmm yes, I think I need to build up my confidence more. I was in London again today and saw people who were clearly busy and not approachable, but were very much complimentable. Then thought occurred to me - Even if they had been free to compliment, my very short height in comparison would make me all the more difficult to notice and hear.

:S

Don't think about your hight as a problem, a couple of my friends are in the \"pocket-size\" department, as I lovingly tease them :silly:, and they are very hard not to notice because they have the right attitude about it. Just feel confidant about yourself and you won't get looked over. One of my high-school classmates is the same hight as me (ergo tall) and nobody noticed her because she was always the quiet reserved person who just couldn't bring up the courage or the attitude to get noticed. So it's not all about hight, but let's say, body language and how you feel about yourself. If you feel ok, people will notice you, if you are afraid to step up to them then it will probably go bad, but mind you, being a little bit afraid is normal and good.

If I see someone who is wearing something interesting, I might comment to them about it, but it all depends on the situation (how approachable they seem, whether I feel like talking, etc). I've gotten lots of comments on my Alchemy jewelry, tattoos, my car, etc. Sometimes it's obviously a pick-up line, but more often than not it seems like genuine appreciation.

Saying \"You look hot in that outfit\" is very different from, \"I really love your outfit\". One is a come-on, one is a compliment. I often comment about what people I meet in public are wearing, or how their hair is, or an unusual makeup (cool nail polish, unusual colors or styles, etc.). It really makes me happy when someone says something nice about what I am wearing, and I am beyond assuming that everyone who says something nice to me is trying to get my clothes off.

I found I received a lot more compliments whilst in the US. Americans are very talkative! It's hard not to get into a conversation. It's very strange - People back home now seem very hostile in comparison.